It's official now. I'm going to start school in almost 2 weeks. The first Monday of February will be the day I step into a whole environment and start on a daily routine that will hopefully take me out of this whole mentality that I am still on holiday.

Time for real life to start.

As husband had said, this would probably make the whole marriage thing feel more real and feel less like a honeymoon. Which gives me mixed feelings. I want to be free of this honeymoon period bcos it does not feel real. It feels too much like a fairytale. But I also don't want it to end cos you only get a honeymoon period feeling once in your marriage. At least most people do.

My best friend told me that her honeymoon period felt pretty much over after about 3 months cos of work commitments, school commitments and just the daily grind of life. I think that's how it is in life. The big wedding, the wonderful honeymoon in some exotic location and the glow of happiness from spending the first few weeks living together as husband and wife. Then slowly and without warning, both the man and woman go back to work and start on the daily grind and that glow seems to dull just a little. Level of dullness seems to depend on how hard you are willing and able to work on the relationship.

I was watching an episode of Oprah the other day and there was a couple being featured and how their relationship had evolved from the efforts made to keep the intimacy and the glow hot and bright. The wife realised one day that they had drifted apart and their sex life had deteriorated a lot. With 2 small children always seeking attention and full time jobs, there was just very little time to spend on each other. But she decided one day to stop all that and make an effort. And an effort she did make.

Candles, hot baths, hot oils, massages and soft music. It was the works. And she did that bcos she wanted to and not to please her husband. She wanted to seduce her husband and have him make love to her. Not just that night...but almost every night since. It had been 3 years since she started her conscious effort and she's gone on to taking belly dance classes, strip tease dance classes and massage courses. All in the name of a better relationship, a better marriage and be better parents.

How it lead to be better parents? Well, she said that the increased intimacy they enjoyed naturally made them more affectionate with each other in front of their children. And when the children sees Mommy and Daddy happy, they naturally become happy kids.

Sounds kinda logical.

A good thing we don't need to do that just yet. I need to start school first. How exciting!!

To my good friend , Francine, congrats on your news grl!! I'm not gonna say what news it is because it is her news to tell. And no, it does not include anything coming out of anywhere in 9 months or so. I can't wait to see you in June! Hopefully everything pans out for you!